Outside of your significant other or family member, is there one person that you can truly rely on? One person that can completely know you and still loves you? A person that you can take the mask off and truly be yourself?
Friendships are so important. They can encourage you. They can build you up. Get you out of your shell and keep from isolating, which as the Bible says, is a breeding ground for the devil. (Proverbs 18:1)
Let’s face it, in this technology increasing, anti-social, post-Covid world, it is so easy to cocoon. Especially now as the winter months start to settle in and here in the Midwest where it is getting bitterly cold, we are given yet another opportunity to hibernate.
Often, with all these distractions, people have tended to do life alone with the people interaction being made through a glowing screen rather than face to face. Which, let’s be honest, is not always a “real” relationship, but a superficial one.
For example, I have 800+ Facebook friends. Now, how many of these so called friends do I actually talk to? Build relationship with? Talk to on a weekly basis? Or even a monthly basis? How many do you?
I’m not trying to be harsh, but trying to show how we need real, true relationships in our lives, not superficial ones. People that can lift us up.
Science confirms that when we have consistent, meaningful relationships with others it helps us mentally, physically, and even spiritually at times. Which is why we need at least one person in our lives that we can be ourselves with. One person that all the walls come down and that they not only support us, but also call us out on our crap.
Find someone that you could call at 2AM and with no questions asked, they would be there in a heartbeat, in pajamas carrying coffee and a shovel (if the situation calls for it…lol)
If either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and does not have another to life him up.
Ecclesiastes 4:10 AMP
There is one stipulation for finding your person. An absolute must. They need to be a life-giver. Not a life-sucker. I think you know what I mean. Those people that drain you. Nearly suck the life out of you. It is good to be friends with them, but don’t put them as your person. It is so much easier to bring a person down than to build them up, and we need deep relationships with people that will build us up!
There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24 NLT
When you find that person, that deep seated friendship, take hold of it and don’t lose it. It is valuable and rare.
Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight, a sweet friendship refreshes the soul.
Proverbs 27:9 MSG
People will fail you. Friendships are no different. But we need to value the relationships more than the offense. Because a true friendship, finding your person, is worth it.
A friend loves at all times
Proverbs 17:17
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